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The "whatever's on your mind" thread

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One of the things that's great about this forum is its randomness. Well, this is the epitome of it: a thread for whatever random thought happens to be passing through your mind.

For example, I've just been struck by the most random craving for Taco Bell nachos.
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  • Alcoremortis;790215 said:

  • All my options come down to one simple decision - to live in London or not.

    I say simple, it's easy to write it down but far harder to choose. And it's not really considering other facets like can I even afford to live there, the answer to that being depending on where I lived. In the north of the city, may be not and in the south probably.

    The main concern is do I want to. I don't know. I don't know if I'll be able to cope there. As things stand if I go to London I'll be going for student accommodation as it's the easiest way to get a place for a decent price. The original idea of getting a place with my brother has kinda fallen through mainly for affordability reasons. That doesn't change much in that I can still see him regularly. But what it does mean is that I'd probably be living with people I don't know and I don't know how I'll handle that as it's not a position I've been in before. This is probably my biggest worry.

    And it's something I won't know the answer to unless I try. So living there, going to university there will be a risk and while going to uni where I went before is the safe option. I tend to prefer the safe option.

    At 31 it's probably time I changed that, time I took a risk, did something new. But the uncertainty is making me hesitant.
  • Just go for it, remember to lay down very clear rules about what is and what is not okay before rooming with other people and try to room with scientists. Seriously, scientists make the best roommates because they'll be gone most of the time.
  • Your 20s is the best time to live with people you don't know. 30s, I don't know. Figure out the risks, rewards, exit strategies, and gut feelings, and go from there.
  • I suppose that's also a thing. I was eighteen the first time I lived with someone I didn't know. And that was sharing a room. And that sharing the room was also on the first day that we met because that's how dorm assignments go.

    However, I know it may sound counterintuitive, but it's really advantageous to not be living at home when you're at school. Family never seems to really understand on a basic level that college is a thing that happens every day, that sometimes you really need to not be tempted to go out to dinner or a movie or a concert or what have you.

    It's why, even though my current university is closer to my house than either my elementary school or high school were, I'm not living at home. Because even now, my parents will call me up and ask me to do something fun and I'll be like, "But I'm working" and they'll be all "Again? But you were working yesterday!"

    This isn't to say my parents are slackers or anything, but they're very far removed from that early career point. They're at the point in their careers where they are good enough at their jobs that they can take a day off here and there and still have the work done by the time it needs to be done and have enough vacation days saved up to do it.

    Long story short, it's much better to be rooming with people who are in the same boat as you, figuratively speaking. The environment is just more helpful for keeping you on track.
  • The age is a concern for me, especially when it's likely that I'll be around a lot people under the age of 20 who are living away for home for the first time and having gone through that craziness I don't really need to live through it again.

    I'm not worried about my family not understanding the work I'd be going through especially my mother who is finishing up her final year of a crime and investigation degree course right now.
  • I'd say that taking one course is much, much different than taking an array of them. Even when working full time (well... lab work) while taking one course, I've found that I have way more free time than I ever did in college. Like, to the extent where I can go out drinking and not feel like I'm falling way behind.

    I suppose I can't really comment on the age thing, but I find it helpful to be around people in exactly the same situation regardless of age. Maybe that's just me though.
  • You could be right, it's something I have no experience of myself. I've never been the most sociable person which has certainly been a hindrance with previous times at university but I've also never really attempted university in the usual way, leaving home to the halls and essentially jumping in at the deep end to meet people and make friends.

    I hate that I'm awkward in social situations but I lack courage and/or the self confidence to do much about it. And maybe the whole age thing is just another excuse my mind is making for not trying new social things. It's not like I'm hopeless at making friends, I even had a couple the last time I was at uni in 2007 and I could have made more had I not restricted myself by staying at home and relying on a public transport system whose hours of operation were so not conductive to late nights on the town - basically it was a choice of going home early or paying £30 to £40 on a taxi ride (the equivalent train ticket was around £4 at the time).

    I want to do something new, break out of old habits and routines. Be brave. But I'm also bloody scared of doing so.
  • If you like random sex, booze, partying, and socialising, then Uni is perfect for you!

    Otherwise you're going to hate it and struggle to adapt there.

    (At least that was my experience with it... -_-)

    Edit: (not trying to put you off here. Its just I'm kind of a loner and had a room on campus and didn't really like it. I wanted to spend my time in my room relaxing with a DVD or a game or something, and the constant fire alarms, partying and drunken idiocy left a foul taste in my mouth (once I eventually GOT a room. Before I had to stay in a travel lodge due to a room shortage. If it had free WiFi and a kitchen it would have been perfect, but alas, we have to make sacrifices...))
  • It's only scary until you actually do it. Believe me, it was scary moving six hundred miles north to live with a complete stranger.

    However, if you actually do it and dive in headfirst, you'll probably surprise yourself. Just don't think too much about it.

    EDIT: I also think it depends on the school. If you go somewhere where people are really serious about their work, you might find it more enjoyable at an older age than a party school.
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